Grief

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort; who comforts us in all our affliction so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.” 2 Cor. 1:3-4

Because our church family has been touched significantly and deeply by the loss of loved ones in recent days, I want to share some thoughts with you about grief. Grief is a natural part of the human experience. Even if you are not presently grieving, a day will come when you will experience grief over some significant loss, personal or material.

Some mistakenly feel that to grieve is not Christian, but this is not so. God’s word does not condemn grief. Instead, we are reminded to “not grieve, as do the rest who have no hope.” 1 Thes. 4:13

There are three key words which help me deal with grief.

One is Patience. Most of us have heard that grief is a process as well as an emotional response. It is an experience through which persons live - not just something done at a funeral. Whether very brief or extended, let us remember that grief is a healing process and like all healing experiences takes time. So be patient with yourself and others who grieve.

Another is Purpose. We must keep in mind God’s promise that He is at work “in all things toward that which is good.” Grief never leaves us the same, we are either bitter or better. A person in grief should never lose sight of the goal of working through grief and moving forward with life. God helps us in our grief and sends many others to comfort and bless. Yet we need to remember the old proverb, “He helps them who helps themselves.” Grief also opens new purposes in life. It may make us more sympathetic and understanding of others who suffer. Often the solution to some of the loneliness of grief is found in helping others who have experienced a loss. Never losing sight of your purpose for living will help you deal with grief.

A final word is Promise. We can overcome grief because our faith is anchored in the promises of God. We are making progress when we can sense and believe that God shares our sorrow. Christ endured suffering so that as our great High Priest He could minister effectively to those who suffer. Remember the promise of peace of God which “passes all understanding” Phil. 4:7. We worship a good and gracious God who provides for us at our deepest level of personal need. Lean on Him in times of grief.

Remember His promise - “...and lo, I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:20