There Needs to be a Head Coach

“For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her, so that He might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, that He might present to Himself the church in all her glory, having no spot or wrinkle or any such thing; but that she would be holy and blameless. So husbands ought also to love their own wives as their own bodies. He who loves his own wife loves himself; for no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ also does the church, because we are members of His body.” Ephesians 5:23-30

Most team sports are given direction and training by a staff or coaches. When there is dissension in the coaching staff, the whole team suffers. Players become confused as to who is calling the plays or what the main strategy of the game will be.

In the family unit, the coaching staff is made up of Dad and Mom. As in all organizations, there has to be a “head coach” - the others being assistants. Although many people do not realize the importance of distinction, it stands as a pivotal point in the family unit. Who is the “head coach” in your family? You may be a pair of coaches, but one is still the “head.” Dad, the “head coach” job is yours. There is no question about it biblically. But all to often, Mom takes the job (out of default) to keep the team together.

Tragedy results when Dad does not fulfill his God-appointed role as head of his family. When a father ignores his role, his kids suffer both sexually and psychologically. The result is that children from these homes are driven to make up for this lack of male affection in other ways - often homosexuality or promiscuity. Dad, the kids on your team are looking to you to fulfill your role as “head coach.”

Who is the “head coach” in your family? Dad or Mom?