How to Deal with Criticism

“He whose ear listens to the life-giving reproof
Will dwell among the wise.
He who neglects discipline despises himself,
But he who listens to reproof acquires understanding.”
Proverbs 15:31-32

The boss walks in the office and reprimands you for a minor flaw in an otherwise well-executed plan. Your mate scolds you for forgetting to fix a loose hinge that has now broken and cracked the glass door. Criticism. Whether merited or not, it is never wanted. However, if we are to gain from criticism, we need to install a mental grid system that will glean the positive and remove the unnecessary.

First, listen. Resolve not to defend yourself immediately. Put your emotions in God’s hands while you allow the complaining party to fully state his case. Restate exactly what the criticism is about so there is no misunderstanding.

When possible, delay your response. Pray and examine yourself under the Holy Spirit’s leadership while waiting. Take responsibility for your mistakes and look for ways to improve. If the criticism is unfounded, ask God to protect you from harm and keep you from developing a bitter spirit.

You can learn from criticism as long as you know you are secure in Christ and open to positive correction.