Marriage vs. Singleness

“But I want you to be free from concern. One who is unmarried is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he may please the Lord; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how he may please his wife, and his interests are divided. The woman who is unmarried, and the virgin, is concerned about the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and spirit; but one who is married is concerned about the things of the world, how she may please her husband. This I say for your own benefit; not to put a restraint upon you, but to promote what is appropriate and to secure undistracted devotion to the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 7:32-35

Some believe the most valued state is that of marriage. Others say the apostle Paul would have declared singleness to be superior. Both views are wrong. These viewpoints are primarily derived from cultural persuasion.

The most valued position in life is that which God has called you to fill. This may include marriage or it may include a life of singleness. In God’s eyes both are equal, highly valued, and have advantages.

For the married person, intimacy with one’s mate is of utmost importance. Together a couple’s devotion is first toward God and then to one another. On the other hand, singleness provides an opportunity to experience undistracted intimacy with Jesus Christ.

Sadly many people become obsessed with what looks right in the eyes of others and often abandon God’s best for their lives. Singles find themselves thinking their needs would be better met by a mate, while many married people view their mates and children as spiritual drains.

If you are married, rejoice in the intimacy God has provided - there is little to equal it. If you are single, ask God to give you a reassurance of His intimate love toward you. The time you spend as a single before God is a calling of endearment and deep abiding trust.

“Dare to trust Him; dare to follow Him!” -F.B. Meyer