A Father’s Greatest Gift to His Children, Part 1

“How blessed is everyone who fears the Lord, who walks in His ways. When you shall eat of the fruit of your hands, you will be happy and it will be well with you. Your wife shall be like a fruitful vine within your house, your children like olive plants around your table. Behold, for thus shall the man be blessed who fears the Lord. The Lord bless you from Zion, and may you see the prosperity of Jerusalem all the days of your life. Indeed, may you see your children’s children. Peace be upon Israel!” Psalm 128:1-6

Since almost nothing affects a child as much as how he views himself, one of the most wonderful contributions a father makes to his children is giving them a healthy biblical self-image.

First, a father needs to love his children unconditionally. Nothing hurts deeper and longer than rejection. If we love our children based on their performance or require them to live up to our perfectionistic expectations, we stunt their self-esteem. Loving unconditionally means we love our children - no matter what - because they are God’s gift to us.

Second, he must help them handle tasks that build up confidence and responsibility. Children who are not taught the value of work and are easy preys of inferiority and inadequacy. Manageable assignments from dad foster a genuine sense of competency and allow expression of each child’s God-given talents.

Third, a father needs to give his children opportunity for service. A biblical self-image blossoms when we look for opportunities to serve others. Preoccupation with self creates a distorted image.

Children who are loved in this manner have a head start in experiencing an abundant Christian life.

“Love never fails...” 1 Corinthians 13:8