Needed: Husbands Who Understand

“You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. To sum up, all of you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead; for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.” 1 Peter 3:7-9

It is said there is nothing better a man can do for his children than to love his wife. The example of mutual affection and submission between husband and wife is the main ingredient for enduring family harmony and a living portrait of the relationship between Christ and His church. In a culture that frequently celebrates the macho male image and an evangelical community that stresses the authority of the husband, the apostle Peter, no milk toast himself, strikes the right balance.

Husband, understand your wife. She operates on a uniquely feminine wavelength that cannot be picked up by a man apart from a concerted effort to know what makes his mate tick. This is a lifelong process, but there are plenty of Christian books that can help the husband gain insight into his wife’s emotional makeup. Find out what makes her happy, what triggers her anger, what opens the tear ducts.

Realize she is a weaker vessel. Weak doesn’t mean inferior. What Peter implies is that the wife is not designed to carry the entire load - financial problems, disciplinary measures for the children, and other common family difficulties. The wife is the husband’s helpmate; and he is her ever-ready helper, willing to relieve emotional or physical overloads.