“And be subject to one another in the fear of Christ.” Eph 5:21
‘Submit’ is a buzz word. A word that is often used to solicit emotional response.
And it is often associated with the Scriptures as it relates to marriage. “Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.” Eph 5:22
But wives are not the only ones who are given this instruction. Addressing the entire church at Ephesus, Paul says, “...submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.” Eph 5:21
To be submissive is not a natural inclination, but an attitude learned from God’s Word, made possible by the Holy Spirit. This is how Paul prefaces the command from mutual submission:
“So then do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is. And do not get drunk with wine, for that is dissipation, but be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody with your heart to the Lord; always giving thanks for all things in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ to God, even the Father.” Eph 5:17-20
As the Holy Spirit teaches you this attitude of Christ (submission), you will become a tool God uses to unify the believers with whom you fellowship.
It is when you build up one another and stand united in love that others will be attracted to Jesus Christ.